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“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different
in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our
communication with others.”
Tony Robbins, author, speaker,
coach
Teenage is also known as the transformational
period as various hormonal changes occur during this age, leading to puberty. Teenagers
face various physical and mental health problems and it is very important to
maintain an effective relationship with your children at this age.
Communication plays a significant role in developing a healthy relationship
between teens and their parents. Parents need to understand their problems,
respect their feelings and try to offer possible support.
Here are a few ways to effectively
communicate with your teenager.
Build a strong connection
Share your thoughts and interests
with them and try to know about their feelings and interests.
Validate their feelings and give
respect to their opinions even if you disagree. Simple statements like I
understand it is a hard time for you or I know you are struggling will help to
build their confidence and they will always share their problems with you. Listen
to their needs and problems and try to find solutions together.
Invest your time
Do not just listen to them while
looking at your phone and doing chores. Give them quality time and proper
attention by looking at them, giving smiles, and kind gestures. It will make
them feel heard, calmer, and, understood. 1 to 2 hours of one-to-one connection
is better than 5 to 6 hours of divided attention.
Invest your energy
Spare your positive energy for
your children and do not always connect with them when you are tired and
drained.
Don't judge
Try to understand their concern
and do not be judgmental. Ask simple questions such as how are you feeling now,
what do think about the whole situation, and what should be the next step. It
will make them feel that you are listening and understanding what they are
saying.
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Give positive feedback
If your child is letting you know
that he has a hard time understanding chemistry equations and he tried his best
and still got 5 out of 10 marks on a quiz. So, first of all, encourage him that
he tried his best and then tell him some tips and tricks to learn the
equations. Even if you cannot do so, ask him that we will try to find an
effective way to avoid this difficulty. It will make them expressive about
their feelings and assure them that you are there for help and guidance.
Give them space
If the child is uncomfortable
sharing their experiences, do not force them doing so. Instead, wait for them
to feel ready for sharing their problems. Ask them to take their time and
assure them that they can communicate anytime.
Have fun together
It is important to spend good
family time when you and your kids enjoy each other’s company such as having
dinner together, playing some outdoor or indoor games, shopping, cooking their favorite
dishes, reading good books, painting, etc. It will help to build a strong and
positive relationship between you and your kids.
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